A frank conversations with psychologist/ sexologist Shari Derksen on sex, intimacy, shame, & building connection.
On this episode of Rise Together I have the sweet pleasure of chatting with psychologist/ sexologist Shari Derksen. We explore the vulnerable & sensitive topic that come up around sex & intimacy. Delve into some of reason there can be sexual shame & explore ideas & practices that help couples re-gain connection & explore their yum.
4:17: Reasons someone might seek out therapeutic support
6:53: The shame that comes with low desire.
8:30: Sexual development & early conditioning that may cause insecurity/shame
14:15: How a culture of 'productivity' effects our sexual relationships
15: 40 The anatomical differences that effect sexual satisfaction
17:36: Fear of being too much (particularly for women)
18:38 Strategies to help clients talk about sex
22:35: How to find a space for intimacy
27:33: Dealing with different levels of sexual arousal or desire.
33:05: Talking about the different things we like in the bedroom
36:06: Creating space to negotiate desires
37:58: Appreciating & discovering what we need & want
41:20: Other practices for creating intimacy
Shari Derksen is a practicing psychologist/sexologist in Calgary, Alberta,
You can find her at: https://shariderksen.com