4 Internal Myths That Prevent You From Expressing Your Honest & Authentic Voice.

Updated: Oct 3



Let's be honest.


Everyone encounters limiting beliefs that impact their ability to express themselves with the clarity, grace, or confidence they desire. Oftentimes, these internal stories go unnoticed - simply unconscious programs we picked up through implicit or explicit learning.


We don't realize these myths are impacting us, instead, we wonder why…


~ Why was it so difficult to speak up for myself?

~ Why was I so emotionally reactive when it really wasn't a big deal?

~ Why does my mind go blank or my throat close up right when it’s time to speak?

~ Why am I still running that same conversation in my head?

~ Why is my voice so shaky?


Well, one reason may be that one of these unconscious programs is creating havoc in your system; making it physically difficult to express yourself (tight throat, feelings of terror), mentally challenging to express yourself (self-doubt, critical self-talk) or likely a combination of both.


The good news is that these internal stories can be rewritten!


We do this by creating new - more true narratives in our minds.


AND


By experiencing the felt sense of these truths through your voice & your body.


Let’s take a look at these myths & begin rewriting the story of your voice.

Myth 1: Your Voice is Not Important.

Where you may have learned it: Authoritarian parenting. Ideals such as “children should be seen & not heard.” Family dynamics (other siblings’ voices are more important, family hierarchy), lack of being met in the expression of your needs or emotions.


How it shows up in adulthood: Unable to recognize how you feel, what you want, or what you need; Unable to protest unfair treatment or recognize it in the first place; believing your thoughts, experiences, or opinions don't matter; feeling overly responsible for everyone else’s experiences. Or, the opposite - demanding & controlling your environment to ensure your needs are met even at the expense of others.


Mental Rewrites: My voice matters. My inner child’s voice matters. I have the right to share my opinions, speak my truth, negotiate for my needs & protest unfair treatment. I show respect for myself by listening & honouring my voice.


Practice ~ Declaration

  1. Settle into the steadiness of your legs & strength of your belly. Place a hand o your belly & with a strong & assertive voice (connected to your belly) speak the words chosen above.

  2. Gently touch your heart. From a tender voice, as though your heart is speaking - speak the words chosen from above

  3. Plan a hand on your head. From a voice that connects from your pelvis to your head (i.e. as though you are speaking from your whole body) speak your statement & again.

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